Hi Jay! Sorry it took me a while to get back to you, but here I am.
I appreciate your previous comments (posted on 1/22), and I’d like to address them one at a time. Hopefully you’ll find this exercise intellectually stimulating rather than mentally tedious. So, here we go…
I do believe that God chooses us, but that that choice is more of a mutual choice.
By using the term “mutual choice,” you’re saying that salvation is a shared responsibility, or cooperative. In other words, God may have done his part, but we still have to do ours. I think there are a number of problems with this position, and I’ll list a few here:
1. This position ignores the full ramification of man being a fallen creature. Left to his own devices, man would never choose God.
2. If salvation depends on man to any degree, then man gets to take that much credit for his salvation. There’s simply no way around this. You’d not only have to admit that the effectiveness of our choice to believe depends on Christ’s sacrifice but also that the effectiveness of Christ’s sacrifice depends on our choice to believe.
3. Not only would man get to share the credit for his salvation with God, he would also have some significant bragging rights with respect to his fellow man. Think about it. How many people do you know who have been exposed to the gospel as much as you have but still refuse to believe? I know quite a few. If these people “know” the gospel as well as we do, then why don’t they believe as we do? According to the “mutual choice” position, we’d have to conclude that those people are somehow less competent than us, because they have the same gospel knowledge as we do. Therefore, we could boast in our being more competent. 1 Corinthians 1:20-31 clearly undermines this conclusion and, therefore, undermines the “mutual choice” position as well.
Moving on…
All of humanity has been chosen for adoption and is offered forgiveness, redemption and salvation through the death and resurrection of His son, Jesus Christ. But like with any gift, a gift must be freely given and freely received. The Holy Spirit draws each and every one of us, but it is in our hands whether we choose to listen and receive what is being presented.
Here, I think you misunderstand the concept of “adoption.” When a child is chosen for adoption, it’s a done deal. The new parents don’t have to wait for the child to “accept” their decision. It’s made. And so it is with salvation. If God really did adopt all of humanity, then everyone would be His child. I believe this view is known as “universalism” and is clearly not Biblical.
While the New Testament teaches that everyone is “offered” forgiveness, it also teaches that only some are chosen to “receive” this gift. Not every gift must be “freely” received. As a parent, I know this from extensive personal experience, as I’m continually giving good things to my children that they are not “free” to refuse (food, clothing, shelter, etc.). The Bible teaches that faith is such a gift, that it is not “freely” received, lest we boast in ourselves (Eph. 2:8-9, 2 Pet. 1:1).
Concerning the “drawing” of men to God, consider the following: John 3:1-8, 6:44 and 6:65. The first two passages, especially, compel us to acknowledge that the Father and the Holy Spirit draw some and not all. It’s like being caught by a spiritual tractor beam, and it’s a very good thing to be caught by.
And finally…
This should draw us into asking what is the significance of things like a bride and a bridegroom, the betrothal, and wedding. The marriage between a man and a woman should be a mutual agreement between the two parties to come together as one. The future bridegroom would present a proposal to unite in marriage with the future bride. Then she would weigh the pros and cons of the proposal and choose for herself to accept or reject. Of course there are variations when it comes to pre-arranged marriages and the likes, but the point is that Christ wants us to choose Him because we want to be with Him. He doesn't want us to say "Yes" because we were chosen by His Father, but instead because we truly want to unite with Him in marriage.
I think it was very insightful on your part to consider this analogy for our discussion. Unfortunately, as with the adoption analogy above, I believe you have misunderstood the concept of betrothal as presented historically and analogically in the Bible, and I believe this misunderstanding has led you to further misunderstand the Biblical doctrine of election.
Historically, in both the Old and New Testament, betrothal was only a two-sided decision to the extent that the groom (or his father) and the potential bride’s father would need to come to an agreement, usually of a financial nature. The woman didn’t have a say in the matter, and consequently, this analogy is used to reflect what the Bible teaches about salvation. A man (or his father) would choose a woman to be his bride, and that was that. And so it is with us and God.
Does Christ want His bride to love Him? Yes. But, in our fallen state, we want nothing to do with Christ. We hate Him. Fortunately, and because it couldn’t be any other way, when God chooses His Son’s bride, Christ transforms her (Eph. 5:25-27). As a result of this loving transformation, we, the bride of Christ, now love Him (1 John 4:19). Christ is magnified not only by our love for Him but also by the fact that our love is only made possible by Him.
In conclusion, I encourage you to take a look at the following passages, which must be reckoned with when it comes to this divisive, yet significant, issue:
1. John 3:1-8
2. Romans 9:1-29
3. Ephesians 1:3-14
The Bible, in its entirety, speaks of God’s election in salvation, but these three passages, in my opinion, are so compelling that I’d have to rip those pages out of my Bible to justify believing that my salvation, in any way, depends upon me, even the choice to believe.