make me like who?
#1
Posted 13 May 2012 - 06:41 PM
#2
Posted 15 May 2012 - 04:36 PM
There is only one standard to which we should all aspire and we all know we can`t ever be "good enough" on our own, don`t we? Anyone who wants you to pattern your life after theirs(unless it is Christ himself) certainly needs your love and understanding more than many. Many people do have admirable traits but only one has all the traits we need, and He showed us how to live and do it right.
Peace be with you and the Love of Christ be in you as you work through this,
Charlie
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#3
Posted 16 May 2012 - 02:31 AM
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#4
Posted 16 May 2012 - 08:29 AM
I understand what you're saying; I have the same problem. What happens is that I hear leadership preaching rules that conflict with my relationship with Jesus. Thus, I feel this war against my spirit, as if I must choose between God or men. It causes a deep grieving within my heart. As a result, I've often withdrawn from church in order to stay near Christ, but then I'm called a lone wolf. This despite weekly participation in a ministry and fellowship with other Christians. However, since I am not doing things the orthodox way, I feel condemned. I'm happy to hear your courageous words; you aren't alone. I believe there are churches that allow intimacy with God, and I think that is the best solution. Inside a church there is a feeling of protection because (at least I do) there is a desire to walk in unity with the entire body of Christ.
I think chipped china said it well: find the true sheep and then we won't feel condemned by the loud voices coming from the false ones. Maybe we need to stop feeling condemned anyway; it might be that we are people-pleasers rather than God pleasers. It is hard though when the church scolds.
Blessings,
Lori
#5
Posted 16 May 2012 - 06:52 PM
#6
Posted 16 May 2012 - 09:41 PM
Elizabeth, I saw your message and read it several times before even considering a reply. It probably does not need any reply except to say that I will certainly be praying for you and your release from whatever is causing you the difficulty. I know nothing of your plight but I do sense a hurt in you that probably should not be there. I don`t even have any advice or reason to suggest any, except I sense you are having a hard time. Yes, people will try to "add on" things to the gospel, and this is nothing new. Paul ran into this in Galacia and had some pretty stern rebuke for those who listened to it. The gospel is simple, so simple that many of us(me included) missed it for far too long. Remember....religion is man`s creation and he always wants to "add on" things that seem perfectly plain and simple, but don`t we all know that Christ has already done it all? We have no works, creeds, chants, or deeds that add anything at all to the Holy Sacrifice He did for us. How to deal with people who want to "add on" or make you more like them? Love them. Honestly and ernestly love them. "This one commandment I leave you, that you love one another even as I have loved you". He never said that this would be really, really easy...but He did say that we are to do it.
There is only one standard to which we should all aspire and we all know we can`t ever be "good enough" on our own, don`t we? Anyone who wants you to pattern your life after theirs(unless it is Christ himself) certainly needs your love and understanding more than many. Many people do have admirable traits but only one has all the traits we need, and He showed us how to live and do it right.
Peace be with you and the Love of Christ be in you as you work through this,
Charlie
Elizabeth, I saw your message and read it several times before even considering a reply. It probably does not need any reply except to say that I will certainly be praying for you and your release from whatever is causing you the difficulty. I know nothing of your plight but I do sense a hurt in you that probably should not be there. I don`t even have any advice or reason to suggest any, except I sense you are having a hard time. Yes, people will try to "add on" things to the gospel, and this is nothing new. Paul ran into this in Galacia and had some pretty stern rebuke for those who listened to it. The gospel is simple, so simple that many of us(me included) missed it for far too long. Remember....religion is man`s creation and he always wants to "add on" things that seem perfectly plain and simple, but don`t we all know that Christ has already done it all? We have no works, creeds, chants, or deeds that add anything at all to the Holy Sacrifice He did for us. How to deal with people who want to "add on" or make you more like them? Love them. Honestly and ernestly love them. "This one commandment I leave you, that you love one another even as I have loved you". He never said that this would be really, really easy...but He did say that we are to do it.
There is only one standard to which we should all aspire and we all know we can`t ever be "good enough" on our own, don`t we? Anyone who wants you to pattern your life after theirs(unless it is Christ himself) certainly needs your love and understanding more than many. Many people do have admirable traits but only one has all the traits we need, and He showed us how to live and do it right.
Peace be with you and the Love of Christ be in you as you work through this,
Charlie
Well said, Charlie. When I read Elizabeth's post and your reply, I thought of a comment by Dietrich Bonhoeffer, who had a similar desire to follow Christ wholeheartedly, along with others who also shared that desire. In his little book Life Together, Bonhoeffer comments that the quickest way to ruin a local church is to insist that it meet your ideal image of the church instead of loving it as it is. Legalism insists that we need to do church the legalist's way to be truly Christian. Elizabeth seems to have been wounded by legalism. Elizabeth, if you read this post, like Charlie, I sympathize. But I would also counsel you to be careful not to do the same thing, unintentionally, as those legalists. No local church, no matter how Christ-honoring, is unmarred by sin & its effects, If your church is healthy, I would hope the leadership would be willing to help you deal with this conflict in a biblical fashion. If it isn't a healthy church, the Lord may want you somewhere else. But the ideal church, where everyone is 100% sold out to Jesus will have to wait til the Church in heaven. Here, finding a healthy church where you are accepted as family, can use your gifts, and serve the Lord alongside people who love you is the goal.
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#7
Posted 16 May 2012 - 10:23 PM
Maybe reading a book called Pagan Christianity by Frank Viola will help you understand what has happened to the church over the centuries. It use to be small groups of believers met in homes, spent a great deal of time together and didn't have the structure we have today. Everyone had their own God given gifts and the people uplifted, taught and shared, and even rebuked one another in love. They had elders but many times they traveled around periodically checking on several different churches to make sure they were on the right path. There wasn't this standardized church service where you sang praises, heard the benediction, announcements,listened with baited ear to a sermon and said hello, how are you? to the person sitting next to you and then rushed home. These disciples knew they had the Holy Spirit and could read scripture without someone teaching them what it meant. People somehow started putting down their Bibles and asked to be spoon feed. Don't get me wrong I get a whole lot out of anointed prophets, and teachers of God's word but Jesus talks to each of us, we are all part of the Body and when some are thought of more highly then perhaps it is man's works not God's works that are confusing our walk. For me I would much rather be part of a small group that met in our different houses, forgetting all the money a structured building costs just sharing the of Love of Christ. It seems to me that financial gifts would really help the people that need it because we would know them intimately. And we could be come more self sufficient as a community.
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#8
Posted 17 May 2012 - 08:52 AM
Well, it went from a fellowship of 80 to 90 people, down to a gathering of just 20 or so of the hard-core "holy ones". Then this legalist way of life began to disintegrate families. That was the breaking point, and the final "split" and then the early retirement of the pastor. It is sad to see a vibrant church destroyed. It is even sadder to see it be destroyed from within. And I can't describe how it feels to figure out that I was part of the means of that destruction.
I say all of that, in order to say Amen! and Thank You! to Pastor Joel for his wonderful response to this thread.
Finally I cannot read through this thread without Paul's words to the Corinthians echoing in my head:
1 Corinthians 12:12-26
12 Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ. 13 For we were all baptized by[c] one Spirit so as to form one body—whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free —and we were all given the one Spirit to drink. 14 Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many.
15 Now if the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 16 And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? 18 But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. 19 If they were all one part, where would the body be? 20 As it is, there are many parts, but one body.
21 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” 22 On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23 and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, 24 while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it, 25 so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. 26 If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.
It requires all of us to make up the Body of Chist. It requires all of us, and our God-given talents and Spiritual gifts to do the work of the Body. And, I believe that it requires all of us in unity with the Holy Spirit to keep each other in check. I heard and ignored the warnings of many, much to my own dismay...but I am thankful that they did attempt to turn me away from the path I was on. I repent now of what I did and what I became, and God has forgiven my sins. May those I have hurt also forgive me.
So, to Elizabeth, Betsy and Lori....May God's Rich Blessings continue in you. I thank God for people like all of you who are on fire for Jesus. I would ask you though to please remain in the Body, in fellowship, and to be patient and long-suffering with those of us who don't understand you and think your ways in error. Never be afraid to speak in the power of the Spirit to those who you are called to admonish for our legalism. Pastor Joel, again, thank you for your words here.
In Christ,
Travis
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#9
Posted 17 May 2012 - 11:03 AM
Shalom
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#10
Posted 17 May 2012 - 03:43 PM
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Posted 19 May 2012 - 01:38 AM
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#12
Posted 25 May 2012 - 05:31 AM
Remember, even Jesus told us to beware of "wolves" from within the church- those who would corrupt the pure gospel by adding their own "stuff, making rules and creating a culture within the church that is not in the least supportive of or enriching to those who are seeking the deeper life.
I share some of the same struggles as you, and am thankful for the encouraging posts from other members in response.
In Christ,
mark landon
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#13
Posted 09 June 2012 - 06:30 AM
Any time a pastor/church tries to add certain 'things/rules', it's legalism - just like the Pharisees. Funny, Jesus simply said love God, love one another. The Pharisees came up with 613 rules... As you can see by the above verses, no one will be justified by works. Even after becoming a child of God (read Galatians) there is NOTHING we can do to earn our salvation. Man seems to have added things, in order to compare his 'righteousness' to others, thus making him feel as though he is spiritual. Funny, even in the Old Testament it says "But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7 ESV). In other words, God looks for heart transformation, not external deeds or appearances.Obviously, if our heart is being transformed it will be reflected in our behavior to the body of Christ and others. But that is the Holy Spirit's working in conjunction with the reading of His Word.
It's sad that many pastors and church miss the gospel.
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Posted 21 June 2012 - 02:30 AM
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Posted 21 June 2012 - 04:48 PM