Hi, Will--I have prayed. I think everyone at some point in their lives thinks that a perfectly coifed exterior makes for a good church body. I just saw a picture of Christina Aguilera without any makeup or hair done, and she looks like a simple, pretty Kansas farm girl w/o any of the Entertainment Industry glitz, just as needy for the gospel as any other folks. But this is exactly what people do--we fix up the exterior to make it look its best, when the Lord is more interested in the interior. We forget that in the presence of a Holy God, we, too, are not "all that." As Christians, we should remember our roots, when Christ took our filthy rags and clothed us with His righteousness. Then we would have mercy on others. Is there a way for you to reach out to the members that have left? Perhaps getting their feedback and addressing their concerns with much prayer would be beneficial. Are they afraid because they have children? Are they just looking down on these folks, or is it some other factors? Fear does very sinful things. How different God is. When I think about the prodigal son, he came back home a tattered mess and probably reeked of pig swill. But his father threw his arms around him and kissed him. I pray your church would have God's Spirit, who says there is more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents. Lord, help us to rejoice in what brings you joy!